The day you are born is the Happiest day in everyone’s life you are related to even though you wouldn’t understand a thing and would keep on staring all around because entering the BIG BAD world is really scary !!
The first few years are full of fun, no tension about studying or working, just EAT & SLEEP because that’s what you will be missing in the years ahead of doing NOTHING. The life goes on and you have to go to Kindergarten and learn the ABC’s and 123’s to become a doctor or an engineer in life. They say kindergarten is the place to make your knowledge base so that you can become a successful person in life, but isn’t it a place just to come pass some time and find what the world just consists of. It’s the first place where you meet people of your age and make first actual connect with humans who have not been related to.
We move from that homely place to a bigger place where we spend a major chunk of our life , THE SCHOOL !! Parents tell us to behave in the interview, warn us to keep our clothes tidy and tell that we should answer to the PRINCIPAL in the most polite way. But isn’t that place supposed to be where you can talk yourself out and be yourself, find out what you like and dislike, make friends for life and find your first crush and experiment on your love life. Every year passing in school teaches us to be a certain person and the pressure to become someone increases with it as well. Parents want you to excel at studies , teachers want you to submit the assignments on time and Principal wants you to go out and win name for the school but no one ever asked you what you want to do, where you want to be or who you want to be. Everything is just put up on you and you have to live by those RULES even if you hate them !!
Graduating from high school but more burden than anything else in life, the decision made at this juncture is considered what you will become in future. From granddad to the youngest cousin everyone will ask you and give you advice in what you should become, they will never ask what you want to become and love. At this moment whatever you do or wan to do is considered wrong but every elder surrounding you and they think it’s just the adrenalin rush talking and not your brain and all the decisions you make are wrong.
Since you want to make everyone happy you take up something which you don’t like but are not even sad to take on and give a try to plan to graduate in that field. We slog for 3 or 4 years liking those subjects so that you can make something out of yourself which the world would consider respectable. In this journey even if you don’t like what you are studying the friends you make ,lectures you bunk, concern seat romances in theater or long hours spent in the coffee shops are what make this journey a bit more easy and happy. Sometimes these moments actually make you take a step and break free from what you are doing and follow your heart but sometimes even those attempts fail.
The final phase is where the studying still continues because you are expected to get a post graduation because a normal degree would not get you a good job or a good life partner. It does not bring a good name to the family. We slog again and get ourselves enrolled for more studies whether it’s a MBA or MS. The 2 years we are taught how to be a leader or manager and handle various situations of the Big Bad Corporate World. I don’t think anything learned here is actually applied by all everywhere. We give up on our dreams again and the aim is to get the best paying job and pass with flying colors even though the job may just involve entering information like a machine in excel sheets and nothing else.
You get a job and next agenda is “BACCHA SHADDI KAR LO” !! The favorite line of everyone again. Don’t you think its time to enjoy and do what you love for sometime. The whole life we cannot be puppets and be handled by someone else. So where do we go from here ???
I have been through the same phase like this and questioned myself the same. What do I do and where do I go from here and just be myself. The answer what I could find was don’t think what the world says but just follow your heart. What if you don’t have a high paying six figure job like your friends or a boy/girlfriend’s shoulder to cry on when something goes wrong. Just break free from all the rules and go out and live your life. Nearly 24 years you have spent in living how others wanted you to, now’s the time do actually do what you like. Help save the planet or start making pots and selling them online..since the whole world is going online. Meet new people and save some money to travel. Explore new places and culture and could be you may find your soul mate and not marry the one you are asked to by others. This is what I have been doing and I thin this is what will take me ahead from where I’m standing currently.
PS: This is just my first step in doing something which I like, so please excuse with the style of writing or and other thoughts which might not be in sync with your thinking style !! 😛
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